Just saw a movie on toilet! In a part of India some people prefer going outside for toilet instead building one at their home. A learned woman decides to divorce a man who doesn’t have a toilet at his home and she has to go to farms to shit. Part which intrigued me most was about the father of the man, he is so adamant about not building a toilet at home because it would be against his holy nature, his great civilization.
Change overcomes him in the end when his mother falls down and has to go nearest and so uses toilet built in the house. Question what is holy? which one is the great civilization? according to new or west as they called going to bathroom is civilized. In the end I realized it is not about civilization at all. It is just not about people of India but about people all over the world, issues they deal with are different that’s all.
They stick to the rules-
They stick to the rules about marriage, relationships even food or toilet, that everything should be certain way or else it is waste. In a way they are afraid to step out of some or other frame, scared to want actually what they desire. They run away from making decisions for themselves and willingly rely on the ghosts of the past. They fear if they step out it will turn out to be mistake and they would get beaten down or rejected or worst of the worst insulted by society. We never feel alive under the mountain of such frames.
I have done so many mistakes, mistakes don’t make me proud but the lesson I learned from them do. Learning the lesson doesn’t mean you just change then you just repeat the same mistake but in other form. You have to be aware what was the mistake.
Brave or not-
Initially though you have to be brave enough to make a decision, it is a mistake or not is determined later. In my experience mistakes are blessings, you automatically become brave enough to decide what is really needed. If you look in history, all brave people have scars of mistakes and more the scars, more they are humble. Civilization or any kind of show they don’t have but just original heart.
So I would not say to feel happy you have to be brave enough to do good, but you have to be brave enough to decide which is real and act, whether mistake or not, thus brave enough to do even mistakes.
